Sometimes you just have a great day, that almost turns into a BAD day. Today was our trip to Knoebels. It's a perfect, family friendly amusement park about an hour and a half from our home. The morning saw me rising at 6:00am to squeeze in some homework that I've not had a chance to get submitted. (I'm going to school online with a major in Leadership and Ministry) The morning was going along famously, I made coffee (first thing-of course!) and sat by the back door and enjoyed the quiet and the chirping of the birds for a few minutes, then it was back to work for me. Jonathan made a smoothy and the children got ready for the big day. We all worked together to pack our backpack with water, sunblock, wipes and medicine. Ahhh, things were shaping up to be perfect.
We had received free tickets to the park and we were to meet up with other friends from church who had decided to go. You can't beat free right? Well, the two other parties were late-no big deal in our book, we just relaxed in the van with our AC and Dunkin Donuts. But here's what made them late, Route 22/322 was shut down due to a tractor trailer crashing, spilling chickens everywhere and then it burst into flames. Those poor chickens, they were headed to market and met an untimely death. Crispy chicken anyone? The truck driver was ok, but those routes were closed until 1:30pm. We passed so many cars who were stranded in the heat, miles and miles of people stuck in an unmoving line. Yup, bad day for chickens and for people.
We arrived safely at Knoebels and had a blast. Towards the end of our wonderful day, Jonathan and I had a heated misunderstanding. Don't you know all married people fight once in awhile?! Any way, here we were, finishing up our day and come to find out he had spent 30 minutes looking for me while I blissfully took the kids on a couple of rides. When he finally found me, with the two youngest in tow, I was happliy seated in a bumper car with Jacob (my nephew), eagerly anticipating bumping all the cars I could. (After the attendant got me unstuck of course.)
I happily emerged from all my bumping glory only to find a very unhappy husband, who proceeded to tell me how unhappy he was. He looked for me for 30 minutes and I didn't answer when he asked to use someones phone (I was too busy taking pictures and my phone didn't ring). I was embarressed and wanted him to quit but we were soon arguing in front of everyone. Yup, our pastor, yup, my brother, yup, our kids. I didn't cry though! Ha! Our Pastor and my brother said an awkward goodbye, I couldn't even look at them as they left. Jonathan and I continued for a few more minutes, trying to come to terms with each other.
We soon decided to return home as I had several class assignments due by midnight tonight and we were all tired. The car ride home was quiet. Hey, I was sleeping-err studying. We got home and Jonathan crashed for a nap and I continued to work on my school work. When he woke up, we were both in our right mind and were able to thoroughly discuss our disagreement. I will spare you the details. I will just say this, he made me feel like I did so many times as a child, like I was standing before a cruel judge without being allowed to speak for myself. I had made him feel left out and like he was missing all the fun, something he also felt as a child. (Anyone who knows Jonathan will agree that Fun is his middle name)
Yeah, we have childhood issues, yes we have adult issues but there is no one I'd rather fight with, grow with and love with. The fighting always draws us closer and so often brings growth and renewed understanding, We are so thankful for how God has come in and healed our marriage and we are amazed everyday at the love we share.
*This happened after an incredibley stressful and busy week last week, with schooling, piano lessons for the kids, family visits, job stress, a misunderstanding within our church (which still needs prayer), traveling to Henderson to pick up our ship (Uncle Frank made for the kids) which took an entire day Friday and into the wee hours of Saturday morning, my grandmother passing away, and then her funeral on Sunday which was a 3 hour drive from Marysville. Let's just say we were only home to sleep.
The Family that Fights together, Stays together-Right?